The Value Of Asking Good Questions
“Asking proper questions is the central action of transformation… questions are the keys that cause the secret doors of the psyche to swing open” - Clarissa Pinola Estes, Women who Run with the Wolves
We are only as evolved as the questions that we ask of ourselves and of life. The depth of our curiosity is what helps us on our journey through the difficulties that we might encounter. More so, these questions act as bridges or gateways to new levels of understanding and consciously.
Philosophical questions that I ask of myself or of the world regularly manifest as a new patient. Those patients often bring exactly the medicine that I needed to bring clarity or learning to a question I myself am sitting with. Like mirrors into my soul; in-to-me-i-c – intimacy.
We are only as evolved as the questions we ask.
Without asking different questions of ourselves and of the world we will never lift the veil on the greater mysteries of life. We will never be receptive to new information, upgrades or possibilities that might present themselves because we are not asking any new questions.
Naturally, difficult times might require that we ask inconvenient questions of ourselves, our lives and the world. We might not always like what comes into consciousness in the asking, yet we must continue to ask. By asking these questions we can be moved out of stuck and stagnant states of being we can move through judgement, manipulation, revenge, anger and pride. All of these emotional states only keep us stuck from advancing in our lives.
This is why so much of the way I teach is around encouraging you to ask good questions. Please remember there is no right answer and if you find yourself in self-judgement or criticism then notice that and sit in the energy of that. That’s the medicine you needed right at that time.
If you respond very positively or very negatively to a particular question, it probably means there is also medicine in it for you also. Just write some thoughts and then take these questions with you throughout the next days, and weeks and see what arises.
Notice also when asked a direct question, for example, ‘what do you want the world to be?’ ………notice if you answer in the negative. It’s important to know what we do want as well as what we don’t want.
Carrying your questions with you as you go about your life attending to everything that needs attending to, and seeing things through the gaze of these new questions.
Where do you experience the question in the body?
How do you feel? Does it lead you anywhere? What else is there?
What am I being drawn towards? What am I shying away from? Why am I moving away from it?
Inevitably this will lead to more questions………. Make sure you remember to listen.
What makes you happy?
What makes you sad or angry?
What are your bad habits?
Use 5 words to describe yourself.
Use 5 words other people would use to describe you.
How do you think you’re perceived by other people?
Are you happy with how you’re perceived?
What are you good at?
What are your top 5 achievements in life so far?
What are your top 5 disappointments in life so far?
What fears you most?
What 10 things are you tolerating in your life?
What hobbies do you have or would you like to have?
Who inspires you in life?
Who do you want to be in life?
The further into your maturation you go the more you will be able to develop the right questions to assist your growth. Or ask others who know you well to come up with some questions for you.